Friends, I have found my bedroom

I have a thing for design—not that I'm particularly gifted with interiors or anything like that, but I feel like I know my own style best when it comes to a room. When it comes to clothes, my style is black. Just black. And apparently with rooms, too, I guess, because I saw this and fell in love with it—

Can't you just see yourself curling up in that bed with the lamp on and rain outside the window?

Also, the other day I made banana ice cream and it was delicious! I just put frozen bananas and a little bit of milk in a blender. That's it. Don't put too much milk in, and if the bananas don't get all the way mashed up just use your spoon to get the rest, and you have these delicious chunky banana pieces. I also didn't have a weird feeling in my stomach like I do after eating ice cream. Be sure to let the bananas get as ripe as you can before you cut them up and freeze them. The riper they are the sweeter they'll be.

If I think of it, next time I'll post a picture of the results.

On the wastefulness of vanity

"And did they pursue a plan of conduct, and not waste their time in following the fashionable vagaries of dress, the management of their household and children need not shut them out from literature, or prevent their attaching themselves to a science with that steady eye which strengthens the mind, or practicing one of the fine arts that cultivate the taste."

     –Mary Wollstonecraft, from A Vindication of the Rights of Woman

As far as leaning in goes (Sheryl Sandberg), I always wonder if I could do that and still have a family. But maybe what I should be examining is our cultural expectations of the attention a woman should pay to her own beauty—and it is a payment. We spend our limited time, energy, thought, willpower, worries, stress, and self-esteem on reaching a goal that we never set for ourselves. If took one half of the thoughts I spend worrying about my appearance and redirected it to more worthy activities—passions that I chose, not duties forced on me by my culture—maybe I could accomplish some of the things I want to but never seem to have the time for. I could learn Spanish and improve my French and Hungarian. I could write more meaningful blogposts, read more, learn to build a website, cook all the recipes I save but never try—so many things that are way more fun than standing in front of a mirror or shopping for the latest styles.

Don't get me wrong, if another woman loves shopping and doing her makeup, that's totally fine. I just want to be sure that it's truly her goal—something she does because she truly enjoys it, not because it fills a hole that wouldn't be there if her culture viewed her as a complete human being and not an object to be admired or rejected.


I created my first infographic for work last week. You can read the post on my work blog here. Be sure to follow us on Twitter @WomanStats and on Facebook at The WomanStats Project and Sex and World Peace.

Hope you're having a good week! It's sure going by fast.

Inner peace (Horace)

“Happiness and misery, [Horace] said to himself, are inside emotions, not outside facts; essentially, then, they are under my control. I can do nothing about what fate sends me, but I can do everything about the way I take what is sent. I can so order my own spirit that no matter how outrageous fortune is I can keep my balance within unmoved. ‘Do you know, friend, what I feel, for what I pray? Not to waver to and fro, hanging upon the hope of the dubious hour. God may give this or that—life—wealth. I will my own self make my spirit undisturbed.’ There lies the whole secret of life. The only important matter is what we are. ‘The fool,’ he writes, ‘finds fault with a place. The fault is not there but in the mind, and that can never escape from itself’”

—Edith Hamilton, writing about the poet Horace in The Roman Way to Western Civilization, pg. 167-68

Pope Francis

There is the tendency to place ourselves and our ambitions at the center of our lives. This is very human, but it is not Christian.

— Pope Francis (@Pontifex) September 27, 2014

Thinking about this quote. Also a really good profile of Pope Francis.

He just wants me to be me

I need to start posting these things earlier. I made this goal to post something uplifting to social media every week, and then I forget to do it until right before I go to bed. It feels good, though, to reflect a little before I lie down. So all in all not bad.

Happy Sunday!

I went to a regional conference today where Richard G. Scott spoke, and he said some really neat things about prayer:

"Don’t worry about your clumsily expressed feelings. Just talk to your compassionate, understanding Father. You are His precious child whom He loves perfectly and wants to help. As you pray, recognize that Father in Heaven is near and He is listening."

I'm just grateful that God will meet us where we are. He'll greet us if we run to Him, like Martha. And He'll teach us. But on the days when we just can't, He'll still be there. Like how he came to Mary, and wept with her (John 11). I'm glad to know that He doesn't expect me to be like anyone else or have the strength or ability or reactions that others might have. He just wants me to be me, and that's a wonderful thing.

Have a great week!

P.S. The picture is from a great video, if you have the time/desire to watch it: